Baby # 2 isn't even born yet and I already have major mommy guilt.
These feelings of guilt started right around the three month mark when I realized I hadn't even opened up a baby book. You know the books that tell you at week 12 your baby is the size of a marshmallow. When I thought back to my pregnancy with Little Bear I read that book weekly like it was the bible of my pregnancy.
The same goes for a pregnancy journal I kept with Little Bear. I am so all over the place for baby #2 though I do have some bump updated on the blog that could count I guess.
So I totally feel that baby # 2 is getting the shaft, but at the same time I have mommy guilt that I am just screwing up Little Bear's life too.
When this baby comes it is going to be a huge wake up call for Little Bear that he is not the only one i need to take care of. There will have to be waiting his turn and dealing with things like his brother needing to be fed before we can play etc. He is so used to being the center of our world and I know this adjustment is going to be hard on him. He is such a sensitive little bear and a total mama's boy.
Am I blowing this up in my head to be a bigger deal than it really is? Probably. In the end, I know that Little Bear will survive. I know that Tommy and I will survive the jump from one kid to two kiddies and life will go on , but for now I worry and have feelings of guilt. It's all part of being a mama. Pin It Now!
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Oh you shouldn't feel guilty at all! Things are different with each baby in unique and different ways. Neither of your boys will miss out, :)
ReplyDeleteI can't speak to this yet because I only have Reagan ... but it can still be felt with other things that I do and I am not giving the time or attention to Reagan that I feel she deserves.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure all mothers have some sort of guilt when they have a second child ... it's part of parenting.
But you are a wonderful mother and I'm sure Baby Bear knows that!!
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Don't feel guilty! It's not as new and exciting. You don't need to read the books because you've already been there! Don't be so hard on yourself!
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don't worry you will do great as a mom of 2! I hate mommy guilt!
ReplyDeleteWhen I read this, my first thought was, "Should parents re-read what to expect AGAIN?!" I was annoyed by it the first time around, I don't wanna read it, again!! haha. You're doing great, and are about 1,000 times more busy than you were the first time around.
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I felt so much of what you are saying here Sara when I was pregnant with my second. And all I can say is it all does have a way of working out. Plus your heart is going to open just that much wider when you lay eyes on your baby. I kept asking myself how will I love baby 2 just as much as Emma, but let me tell your heart just knows. And my girls are truly so close that I melt when I see them together. Believe me when I say what you are feeling is perfectly normal though.
ReplyDeleteI feel this same way--you are definitely NOT alone. With Sofia, I was reading that book religiously and even writing things down during the pregnancy. I told myself I would document this pregnancy too, but so far that hasn't happened, besides doing bi-weekly photos of the bump. I think it's because we have that other baby to take care of, and they really do get all of our time. And they should, because that time will have to be split when the new babies come. Which yes, I also am worried about. I think it's normal. And I think we both will end up doing fine :)
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